1. Driving
This has nothing to do with driving skill. It is a matter of seeing how his personality manifests in driving and his car.
- How well maintained does his car look? It could be a new car but poorly cared for. It could be old but well taken care of.
- Does your gentlemen friend open the car door for you?
- How messy or smelly is his car?
- Is he an aggressive or passive/overly cautious driver? This can reveal how his personality generally is.
- Does he speed and consistently weave in and out of lanes just to make the trip slightly faster? He is risking his (and your) life just to save a few minutes.
- Does he let other cars (who signal) into your lane?
- When there is a long exit ramp packed with cars, does he drive to the front of the line and muscle his way into the lane? Unless the driver has a very good reason (e.g., they are in a hurry because they have to rush to the hospital), I generally think such people are narcissistic or selfish - what makes them more important than everyone else??
- Does he let pedestrians cross?
- When it's late at night, I think it's an extra bonus when he waits after he drops you off to see that you safely go inside your home before driving off.
2. Eating
Having a meal together can reveal their manners and how considerate they are. Please see my post on Proper dinner date etiquette.
3. How he treats children, the elderly, the handicap, and animals
These are "vulnerable" populations so you can see how your significant other treats those they think may be "weaker" than them. Are they playful with children and animals, and respectful towards the elderly and handicap?
4. Playing a game or sport in a team
- How competitive is your partner?
- Is your partner a good team player?
- What is their sportsmanship?
- Do they cheat to advance?
- Do they boast after winning? Or are they a sore loser if they don't win?
- How competitive is your partner?
- Is your partner a good team player?
- What is their sportsmanship?
- Do they cheat to advance?
- Do they boast after winning? Or are they a sore loser if they don't win?
5. Taking a short trip together
This gives you a preview of whether your personalities and lifestyles get along.
- Are you able to stand the other person after being with them for hours or after sharing a room?
- If you share a room, are your routines, lifestyles, and preferences compatible?
- Do you want to do the same activities, go to the same places, or eat at the same time/restaurant? If not, how well do you two compromise?
- How considerate is the other person of your feelings, personal space, and preferences?
- How well do you converse with them over the course of an entire day? Do you run out of conversation?
- Who pays for the travel, hotel, food, activities, etc?
- If by the end of the trip, you wish you had more time with them, then that is a good sign.
This gives you a preview of whether your personalities and lifestyles get along.
- Are you able to stand the other person after being with them for hours or after sharing a room?
- If you share a room, are your routines, lifestyles, and preferences compatible?
- Do you want to do the same activities, go to the same places, or eat at the same time/restaurant? If not, how well do you two compromise?
- How considerate is the other person of your feelings, personal space, and preferences?
- How well do you converse with them over the course of an entire day? Do you run out of conversation?
- Who pays for the travel, hotel, food, activities, etc?
- If by the end of the trip, you wish you had more time with them, then that is a good sign.
6. Stressful situation
Inhibitions are let down under stressful situations. How do they handle a challenge? People are not usually as nice as they typically are, and their true colors may show.
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