How to make your personality more attractive

People who are physically attractive are usually treated better and get more dates.  (See my post on How to make yourself more physically attractive.)  Chemistry based on physical attraction may ignite sparks that lead to a relationship, but personality is what sustains it.  No matter how beautiful you are, your looks will eventually fade or your partner may habituate to your looks.  Or you will turn quickly turn "ugly" if your personality is subpar.
 
Awareness of self and others
Although you are important, the world does not revolve around you.  Appreciate the people in your life.

1.  Be aware of how you feel, act, and come across to others.  Ask friends and family to use five adjectives to best describe you.  This allows you to see whether your perception of yourself is similar to how others perceive you.
2.  Write a personal mission statement and create a list of goals.  This will help you define who you are, clarify what/who is important to you, and focus on how you want to live and the direction you want to take in life. 
3.  Empathize and put yourself in the other person's shoes before judging.
4.  If someone upsets you, take a step back, look at the situation objectively, and consider a reason why the person may have done what they did.  Tactfully talk to the other person about the situation.  If they wronged you, forgive easily.  If you wronged them, admit it.
5.  Try not to talk badly about anyone (it is to easy to fall into this trap). 
6.  Take responsibility for your faults.  Do not be quick to blame others. 
7.  Offer constructive criticism in a non-offensive way or call attention to their mistakes indirectly.  (See my post on Tips for communication.)
8.  If you are in a conversation where the other person is badmouthing someone, defend those who are not present to defend themselves.
9.  Keep up-to-date with local and world news.  It gives you a wider perspective about many things (various issues, government, health/science, economy, communities, cultures, foreign countries, life).  Aside from fostering personal growth and learning, it also provides good conversation topics and makes you (sound) more intelligent.  Discussing issues and ideas are better than talking about people (i.e., gossiping).

Be happy with who you are
Happiness comes from yourself.  How can you expect someone to love you if you don't love yourself?

1.  No one is perfect.  Accept your faults and/or try to improve them.  You do not have control of your background (i.e., where you came from or what your upbringing was), but you can determine who you become.
2.  Love yourself.  If you don't love yourself, why should you expect others to?
3.  Live simply.  Appreciate loved ones and be grateful for the things you have.  Don't envy or be sad for what you don't have.  Otherwise, you will never be satisfied because there will always be something you covet.
4.  Find or develop a passion or goal, and engage in meaningful activities.  Spend time with people you love or doing things you enjoy.
5.  Have good integrity, even when no one is watching.  The right thing to do is usually the harder thing to do.
6.  Be confident and self-encouraging.  Fake confidence even if you are not truly confident, because it will eventually make you actually confident. 

Be positive
No one wants to be around someone who is a grouch all the time.

1.  Find something positive in a bad situation.  It is not what happens to you that matters, but how you perceive it and react.  Look at a problem as a challenge or an experience from which you will learn or build character.  You may not be able to change other people or your surroundings, but you can change yourself and how your perceive things.
2.  Our lifetime is finite.  Enjoy the moment.  Do not waste precious time worrying about things you cannot control such as the past (just learn from it) or the future.  Find joy in the smaller pleasures in life.  Do not be bothered by the little things.  Even the bigger problems will likely be inconsequential in a few years.
3.  The purpose of complaining should be either to vent or to make a change for the better.
4.  Smile (even when you are not happy).
5.  Be kind and generous to others and yourself.  Treat yourself to something nice occasionally.
6.  Be humble.  Be quick to praise/appreciate others, and slow/cautious to criticize.   
 
Be present, confident and engaging 
Be engaged and interact with people.

1.  When someone invites you to go somewhere or do something, accept if possible.  It is an opportunity to be social, meet people, and have a new experience.
2.  In your daily routine, there are many chances to connect with people.  Do not just focus on what is at hand.  You can talk with people at work or while waiting on line at a coffee shop or grocery store (just be careful who you strike a conversation with).  Do not close yourself off in your office/cubicle or by checking your phone or plugging your ears with headphones to listen to music while waiting on line. 
3.  Have good eye contact.  Smile.
4.  Form close friendships by being a good listener, carrying meaningful conversations, and be genuinely interested in others. 

"The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair.  The true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul.  It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows. The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years."

"For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone."

"As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.  Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, it's at the end of your arm."  - Audrey Hepburn 

"Be the change you wish to see in the world."
- Mahatma Ghandi

"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle."  - Plato