It has been a while since I have been on the dating scene. I thought about inviting a guy to my place to just hang out. But my friends cautioned that this would imply to the guy that I would want to get intimate. Why can't things be innocent anymore?? I think that as we get older or more experienced, we tend to have intercourse earlier in a relationship. Perhaps it is because intercourse is not such "a big deal" the more often we have it, or the more partners we have.
On which date will you have sex in a relationship?
I agree with your friend; inviting a guy that you don't know that well over to your place just to hang out does imply that you wouldn't mind getting intimate with him. It doesn't mean that you definitely want anything to happen but i think it implies that you wouldn't mind if it did. For example, you would not offer such an invitation to a guy who you have zero interest in, correct?
ReplyDeletei think that in general, people (these days) have intercourse early in a relationship. It doesn't even have to be an official relationship; you could just be dating. (I say these days to mean the 21st century. I think it was different back in the 1950s. I don't know how sex got so causal. Perhaps it is a combination of increased usage of condom, improved birth control methods, and a decrease in HIV news in the media). It's true that intercourse is not seen as a big deal now but that doesn't mind you have to go with common practice! A decent guy will respect you for not having sex on the first few dates and the RIGHT guy will love you more for it.
Thank you for your post, grlaeris. It is a good point that you have about people having intercourse earlier the relationship nowadays, even teenagers. Perhaps the media is a contributing factor (e.g., TV shows glorify high school students who date and have sex - 90210, One Tree Hill, Glee).
ReplyDeleteI am somewhat interested in the guy whom I want to invite to my place, but want to get to know him better before we get intimate (even kiss). I actually did end up inviting him up briefly at the end of a date (long story about how that came about). We just talked and he didn't make a move - I was very glad :)